I overheard a woman in the bank this morning talking about her four month old son who was sleeping peacefully in his rather expensive pram. She said that sometimes when he was screaming or not sleeping she wished she didn't have him. Cue lost baby Mum, (and I feel I need some sort of superhero intro music here as I leap in feet first) "Oh please don't say that, I wish every day that I still had my son with me" Shocked face, spluttered excuse, hasty exit by her. I know she didn't mean it, she even hesitated as the words came out of her mouth but I couldn't help myself and who knows, maybe she will appreciate what she has a tiny bit more.
When I first logged back onto facebook, which I hardly ever used before my pregnancy, my last entry said, "Barbara thinks pregnancy is overrated." I was feeling nauseous most of the time back then but
next time I won't care if I feel sick for 40 weeks. Ok, I will care but I won't wish it away. I deleted that entry. I don't think I will ever be flippant about pregnancy again. It's serious now.
You DO need superhero music! I'm so proud of you for saying something...it needed to be said!
ReplyDeleteWhew, Wow! Very appropriate reality check for a woman who is clueless to how blessed she is. ((Hugs))
ReplyDeleteSee? I told you you were my hero!
ReplyDeleteGood for you!! We need to call parents on these thoughtless comments more often. I know they don't really mean it, but I also know THEY don't know how much hearing things like that can hurt.
ReplyDeleteI am so glad you said something to her about it! I know she meant no harm, but people should be made aware that we don't all get to take home a baby just because we carried one, and we should all be grateful for every moment we have with them.
ReplyDeletethree cheers for barbara! i wish i said something to the pregnant smoker the other day.
ReplyDeleteSounds like you're our hero, all round Barbara!
ReplyDeleteI wish I had've said something to the heavily pregnant woman whinging to a long lost friend in the hardware shop that baby was due 16 Dec but she hoped it came early so it didn't f*&k up her Christmas.
My comment would've been something like "Love, I hope it comes healthy and f*&ks up your Christmas hugely!"
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I was rather proud of myself, it's one of the very very few times I've spoken my mind when hearing/seeing flippancy about such a precious thing.
ReplyDeleteDon't they know... well of course they don't and I hope they never find out!
I could hear the Indiana Jones score music when I read that!
ReplyDeleteSo proud that you said that! Some parents (me included prior to losing Christian) are so naive. Its all innocent but really they have no idea until it happens to them.
Sending you love Mrs Jones!
Carly x
Duh DAAAAAA! Miss B is here!
ReplyDeleteYou know, I understand how it hurts when women whine about what pain their kids are! And trust me, most of these whiners, did not have to go through any of the huge trouble we are all taking and it makes me want to scream at all the possible fertility goddesses and ask as to what the hell did I do wrong.
On another note, same thing in a different view. I know of one first-time mother who was absolutely at her wit's end with super exhaustion, handling the baby. I am sure she would also have considered the prospect of not having the baby exciting at some fleeting moment!
I'd have said the same thing to that woman, good on ya; there is no excuse for saying something like that and I've raised two babies, and babies, they cry don't you know!
ReplyDeleteloss definitely changes our perspective when it comes to pregnancy but complaining isn't the same as not being appreciative, you can complain, they say its even good for you :)
xxx