Thank you dear kitteh experts out there for your support and help (and dearest non-kitteh expert for your support always!)
Just hearing that some of you have dealt with similar situations put my mind at ease and convinced me that we'd sort out our feline's freakiness.
That's what I love about this community; you hold me up when I'm sagging under the weight of grief, offer advice on babymaking technicalities (well some of the technicalities!), laugh with me at my attempts at cooking, cheer my on when I start making memory jewellery, marvel at our garden or our adventures, and jump in with kitteh psychology and sympathy when I'm at a loss. Thank you. I can't say it enough. Thank you.
I hope one day to be asking for mothering advice. I hope.
The cats were kept apart yesterday and much of this morning, with a couple of incidents needing scruffing (painless and easy) and this morning both sat on opposite ends of the bed for a while. (yay)
There was some hissing and staring and general standffishness which tapered off through the afternoon with plenty of distracting play (laser pens are great) until finally this evening Sketch was grooming himself and Lyx walked up to him and shoved her head in his way which is her indelicate way of asking for some grooming and quite possibly saying "I forgive you let's be friends". Sketch isn't being quite so dominant and finally we have PEACE! Hopefully it will last!
HUGE sigh of relief from us.
And two kittehs snuggling up with us on the sofa....
And I almost added as it should be; but of course it's not how it should be at all.