tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post8728307227694991699..comments2023-09-28T13:56:17.927+01:00Comments on burble: Reeling.Barbarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01484695553612265127noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-28465844292118055042008-12-17T20:39:00.000+00:002008-12-17T20:39:00.000+00:00Yay for laughter! And yay for Sally telling it lik...Yay for laughter! <BR/><BR/>And yay for Sally telling it like it is!Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01484695553612265127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-72705339178209268312008-12-17T20:26:00.000+00:002008-12-17T20:26:00.000+00:00Yes- I have to say that, though I don't laugh much...Yes- I have to say that, though I don't laugh much these days, I read Sally's comment and burst out laughing. Sometimes no other expression will do.Dani819https://www.blogger.com/profile/00620957484893505246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-10677585584432584822008-12-17T14:28:00.000+00:002008-12-17T14:28:00.000+00:00Speechless. But I think you nailed it - this is cl...Speechless. But I think you nailed it - this is clearly someone who needs to validate her own loss by negating yours. <BR/><BR/>How very sad for her. And how strong of YOU to recognize that she is full of sh*t and is, as hope's mama so eloquently puts it, a fucking twat.<BR/><BR/>(Not only are expletives useful here. They FEEEEL good.)mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-61332575274308141462008-12-16T16:43:00.000+00:002008-12-16T16:43:00.000+00:00I am reading this post and have only read the firs...I am reading this post and have only read the first paragraph. I am speechless. She didn't say that? I expect more from mama's who have been there. <BR/><BR/>No, you can't measure grief by gestation. Not long ago I was thinking about this and really the thought is absurd. "You can be this sad at 19 weeks but at 20 weeks you are this much more sad". Nope, doesn't even make sense.<BR/><BR/>All you get that weeks is Legal and validation. That is simply it. A simple legality. And it really isn't fair.<BR/><BR/>Wow! Just Wow.<BR/><BR/>I am so sorry she said that. She is wrong.Quinnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16945240732858372650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-21655681459911131972008-12-16T15:52:00.000+00:002008-12-16T15:52:00.000+00:00The cruelty of this woman's comment is beneath con...The cruelty of this woman's comment is beneath contempt. It literally took my breath away.<BR/>She needs to be Bi+chslapped like we say on the West Coast.<BR/>I'm so, so sorry, Barbara.<BR/>I pity this woman, she has no compassion.Martha@A Sense of Humor is Essentialhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07129428477996644401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-80990147429327401982008-12-16T05:11:00.000+00:002008-12-16T05:11:00.000+00:00Oh My God! Did you get to slap or pinch her? Did y...Oh My God! <BR/>Did you get to slap or pinch her? <BR/><BR/>Did you get to really kick the shiny stars out of her?<BR/><BR/>She is so insensitive even after experiencing that kind of loss?..alhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679149270839974470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-78778517950810574392008-12-16T00:44:00.000+00:002008-12-16T00:44:00.000+00:00Oh Barbara,I know it might be hard to shake that o...Oh Barbara,<BR/><BR/>I know it might be hard to shake that one off, but try to. Some people have said some things like that to me too. Our little boys may not have been full term, what does that matter?!<BR/><BR/>I guess she just wanted to validate her child's life, but why in such an insensitive way! She is probably very bitter still. I am so sorry that your wore the brunt of her bitterness. You and George deserve so much better than that.<BR/><BR/>Hope your bath was just lovely. Try and have a good sleep. Sending you much love and missing our boys together.<BR/><BR/>Carly xCarly Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14586501928364642712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-29244638261500153062008-12-16T00:36:00.000+00:002008-12-16T00:36:00.000+00:00What a fucking twat.What a fucking twat.Hope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-15109477140877058292008-12-15T23:30:00.000+00:002008-12-15T23:30:00.000+00:00Barbara - this is maddening!! Thank goodness you a...Barbara - this is maddening!! Thank goodness you are a strong woman or her remarks may have knocked you back to 1982! IF you ever see her again you can point her to just about ANY blog of a DBM for clarification. <BR/><BR/>This is what is posted at the top of mine!<BR/><BR/>"My definition of loss: miscarriage at any stage, still birth regardless of week gestation, infant death at any month, and loss of a child even if your child was all grown up. For me they all hold the same root of devestation. None are more profound or more "easily" dealt with than another."<BR/><BR/>How sad- a loss mother who doesn't get it. (sigh)Carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08878937591945134056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-14238099753712269412008-12-15T21:53:00.000+00:002008-12-15T21:53:00.000+00:00What the f&*k? I can not believe she actually ...What the f&*k? I can not believe she actually said that.<BR/><BR/>You know, I think there are other people out there (not here, not us, not our community) but out 'there' who think this. But what I can't belive is that this person that said it to you had actually lost a baby. Of all people, you think she would understand.<BR/><BR/>We have all lost our babies. Full Stop. <BR/><BR/>And we will remember George and his little friends forever.<BR/><BR/>Its not a contest. Its not anything other really fucking awful.<BR/>xxxRachaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08573991998853561283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-6160033016285304992008-12-15T21:25:00.000+00:002008-12-15T21:25:00.000+00:00F--- her. I feel for her loss, but man, we're supp...F--- her. I feel for her loss, but man, we're supposed to be in this together. George is remembered and loved by us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-70828157342564334672008-12-15T18:50:00.000+00:002008-12-15T18:50:00.000+00:00You're right. She's wrong. :( It's ba...You're right. She's wrong. :( It's bad enough when friends & family spout (or imply) this kind of cr@p, but I would expect better from someone who's had a loss themselves. (((hugs))) Don't let her get to you.loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-43166382537286979912008-12-15T18:11:00.000+00:002008-12-15T18:11:00.000+00:00Wow. Now I'M pissed!!!! She is totally, horribly...Wow. Now I'M pissed!!!! She is totally, horribly wrong. And I have research to back this up- study after study shows that grief after a pregnancy loss is absolutely not correlated with how many weeks pregnant you are when you lose the baby. But all science aside, of course she's wrong. Your grief is real. Your loss is real. Your son is real. It's not a contest. I'm with you- I'm sorry for her loss, but fuck her for daring to question yours.<BR/><BR/>Hugs and warm soothing thoughts for you. Hope tomorrow is better.Dani819https://www.blogger.com/profile/00620957484893505246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-27912701410146496342008-12-15T17:45:00.000+00:002008-12-15T17:45:00.000+00:00Oh Barbara, that is un-fucking-believable. The bi...Oh Barbara, that is un-fucking-believable. The biscuit & biscuit tin indeed (i like that phrasing, not one i'm familiar with). I'm so sorry you had this run in with this woman. Sounds like she is in such an un-healthy place. Love & hugs to you...George will be remembered ALWAYS.ezra'smommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17342399045659116165noreply@blogger.com