tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post4443591681441854672..comments2023-09-28T13:56:17.927+01:00Comments on burble: Letting goBarbarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01484695553612265127noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-23122745651574275792009-05-29T23:44:14.339+01:002009-05-29T23:44:14.339+01:00I'm just reading this for the first time and I wan...I'm just reading this for the first time and I wanted to be sure I told you how badly I feel for you and how grateful I am for your leaving that horrid place. <br /><br />Peace.Mommy (You can call me OM)https://www.blogger.com/profile/07330090628350118582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-90543886564258065332009-05-27T03:58:01.653+01:002009-05-27T03:58:01.653+01:00My head is swimming with anger for you!
"It doesn...My head is swimming with anger for you!<br /><br />"It doesn't matter!"<br /><br />I feel this way about most everything now days. A dead baby will put everything into perspective. I can not empathize with people who are compalining about mundane things. I would take it all, if I could have my son back.<br /><br />Write that letter. And then shove it up that idiot's you know what!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04602706939281669017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-73099841736851139332009-05-26T22:08:54.795+01:002009-05-26T22:08:54.795+01:00I am so sorry it ended this way with the job, Barb...I am so sorry it ended this way with the job, Barbara- but having followed the story for a while, I am sadly not surprised. What I am surprised at is how little compassion they showed you and how wrong they managed to get the whole thing, start to finish.<br /><br />As to writing a letter- sometimes you need to feel like you've said what's in your heart, even if the people hearing it never understand. Would you want to make them hear you even if things don't change as a result? <br /><br />You've approached this whole mess at work with your head held high and your humor and dignity intact. Screw 'em.Dani819https://www.blogger.com/profile/00620957484893505246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-4785453488986868962009-05-26T15:29:17.145+01:002009-05-26T15:29:17.145+01:00I go back and forth on issues like this - write a ...I go back and forth on issues like this - write a letter in efforts to help, or just be done with it and save yourself the mental and emotional stress.<br /><br />Can you find a low responsibility parttime job just to bring in some money? And then just keep to yourself - I don't plan on trying to 'make friends' at work again...Ya Chunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816837461370619194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-1849963501427415112009-05-26T15:24:34.547+01:002009-05-26T15:24:34.547+01:00Proud of you Barb for choosing your sanity over mo...Proud of you Barb for choosing your sanity over money. I`m sorry they were such assholes and incapable of dealing with what happened.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-58366243259108817602009-05-26T15:14:32.750+01:002009-05-26T15:14:32.750+01:00I feel lucky that, for the most part, I was treate...I feel lucky that, for the most part, I was treated very compassionately at work, but my heart was broken and the last year of my employment, I was half a person and needed to let go.<br /><br />I'm glad you are letting this go. I'd still write the letter, especially b/c of the nasty "you arent the only one..." It's true that none of us are alone nor, sadly, are we the last. For the sake of another grieving parent, I'd write.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-16222288283565483152009-05-26T14:49:26.315+01:002009-05-26T14:49:26.315+01:00Barb,
How horrible! I don't even begin to unders...Barb,<br /><br />How horrible! I don't even begin to understand people in the world that act like that. How do they get through life?<br /><br />Proud of you for standing up for yourself.<br /><br />xoLeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05569964047627902570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-57482288080992207052009-05-26T14:46:18.460+01:002009-05-26T14:46:18.460+01:00Ah, that sucks. I knew it was bad for you there, ...Ah, that sucks. I knew it was bad for you there, but the comments really drive it home. You're right, it is about people. My coworkers haven't been fabulous, but they haven't been horrible either. But the key for me, I think, is that I can go in my office and shut the door :) To be surrounded by un-fabulous people with no door - I think my sanity would be at risk too! <br /><br />Here's hoping you get some peace from dropping those keys in the box.Bluebirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05026618678540051581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-29986666917758867482009-05-26T14:45:09.511+01:002009-05-26T14:45:09.511+01:00I'm so very sorry that you've had to deal with suc...I'm so very sorry that you've had to deal with such cruelty. I admire your courage and strength in turning the page on this chapter of your story. They do not deserve a woman as wonderful as you!!! You found what that job was meant to bring you...your sweet husband, your best friend...you two are an amazing couple.<br /><br />Congratulations on moving forward, for turning away from heartless, uncalled for behaviors. Here's to brighter days ahead...they're coming for you, I believe that.<br /><br />xoxoSnarky Bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17893940815826970998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-31996774569510313862009-05-26T12:10:41.564+01:002009-05-26T12:10:41.564+01:00Your officemates had no idea of what hell you are ...Your officemates had no idea of what hell you are going tnrough, and most of them would never realize....Stay Away from them!<br /><br /><br />I tagged you...and would love you to do it!<br /><br />http://ovulationticker.blogspot.com/2009/05/8-8-on-8.html..alhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679149270839974470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-60242637055225510702009-05-26T11:41:54.222+01:002009-05-26T11:41:54.222+01:00I am so sorry you were treated with no compassion ...I am so sorry you were treated with no compassion at all. How cruel! That is rotten and I think it wise you do not go back to that place. There would be no healing there, only more wounds. <br /><br />I do not know how it is to go back to the same place of work as before. I had to stop working while still pregnant with Liam due to pre-term scare. I just never returned. My friends there were understanding and no one was mean. They were supportive and for that I am thankful.<br /><br />I found a new job, doing something different a few months after Liam. I thought it would be a good fit for me - nature, teaching, outdoors...problem was I never felt comfortable or safe. No one was outright mean or nasty, but I never felt like me. After many months of that, I quit.<br /><br />I am not at a part time job closer to home at a place where I feel safe, loved and where I can be me. I love it! Working often gets my mind off the troubles of life, letting me work and chat and smile. <br /><br />Just give yourself some time and when it feels right, look for something else. Full time, part time, whatever you want. Hopefully it will be a place where people are compassionate and you can be yourself.<br /><br />Good luck.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03740847681453723883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-84156997881415890642009-05-26T11:20:09.944+01:002009-05-26T11:20:09.944+01:00Good on you. You summed it up with the fact that ...Good on you. You summed it up with the fact that your (our!) sanity is more than a pay check. We're not on the streets yet. I used to love my job too. I hear you on so many different levels. And our priorities are different right now. And in the future they will be different again.<br />As for not being the only woman to have gone through this. Well all I can say, and I'm sorry to say it, but THANK GOD for that! Because seriously, for me, without all you girls, who have been through the loss of the most precious part of you... same same but different as they say... well, you have been what has kept me together. Not stupid FW's that say thing's like that!! <br />And yup.. do it. Write that letter. If you feel like it. Hopefully it will change something for just one person. But it most probably won't. I'm a glass half full person, but I've learned that seriously unless you touch this grief yourself, they seem to think they know more than you about it.<br /><br />xxxbirhttp://allthelittleponies.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-30257050631940042262009-05-26T03:08:27.632+01:002009-05-26T03:08:27.632+01:00Big ((Hugs)) to my beautiful friend, Barbara and h...Big ((Hugs)) to my beautiful friend, Barbara and her Poppet.Martha@A Sense of Humor is Essentialhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07129428477996644401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-33102152492192691232009-05-26T01:50:54.617+01:002009-05-26T01:50:54.617+01:00I'm proud of you Barb, for putting your sanity fir...I'm proud of you Barb, for putting your sanity first. xoxoezra'smommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17342399045659116165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-70561658709984187252009-05-26T01:22:32.561+01:002009-05-26T01:22:32.561+01:00Do it Barb...sometimes it's the only way to let go...Do it Barb...sometimes it's the only way to let go. If they don't respong then shame on them. Maybe it will open their eyes to dealing with a colleague who is bereaved. Good on you for not going back. Hugsmargarethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16494588299838654564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-62901521234046095902009-05-26T00:59:48.194+01:002009-05-26T00:59:48.194+01:00"Financially it's messy but we'd rather I was sane..."Financially it's messy but we'd rather I was sane than bringing in a pay check."<br /><br />This speaks volumes. Priorities your job didn't have. Priorities the world doesn't always have. But should. For what it is worth, I think the letter would be amazing. How they manage to run a successful business with no conscience is beyond me, because it is unconsciencable to not support a woman grieving the death of her child. Maybe a letter would be a good reflection of the pain they inflicted on someone already suffering. It makes me feel physically ill. xostill life angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15150141781089602529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-59383450620780097102009-05-26T00:52:42.357+01:002009-05-26T00:52:42.357+01:00I'm so with you on this Barb. This is why I haven ...I'm so with you on this Barb. This is why I haven not yet returned. I was treated so badly before I had Hope. Then she died, and people wonder why I have not gone back? You are so right, it is about people. And they were/are the wrong people for me to be around in my grief. I know you know you're not alone, but I'm sorry you felt so alone in that place.<br />I'm glad you are putting it all behind you. Onwards and upwards to much better and brighter things.Hope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.com