tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post8915314272052268987..comments2023-09-28T13:56:17.927+01:00Comments on burble: Grrrr!Barbarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01484695553612265127noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-39288568749981684522009-12-17T07:02:23.905+00:002009-12-17T07:02:23.905+00:00I read this on Frustrated Fairy's blog and wil...I read this on Frustrated Fairy's blog and will put in my two cents - and will let my midwives know as well as they are from the UK but living in Canada. They'll likely know others. I can't imagine not holding my baby and would never want the medical staff to decide for me (as I've heard from older women here, just as Isla's Mummy said). Thanks so much for posting about it.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01771397595613026711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-36214615986969373222009-12-15T13:41:08.459+00:002009-12-15T13:41:08.459+00:00I saw this and signed a few weeks ago. I can'...I saw this and signed a few weeks ago. I can't believe that they would try and take away the only precious moments parents have with their children. I can't imagine all the (more) regrets I would have if I wasn't able to spend the day with my sweet girls. I really do hope this changes!! xxTinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15149337445828424583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-56342040834941665292009-12-15T08:54:22.313+00:002009-12-15T08:54:22.313+00:00i signed and commented on the petition. thanks for...i signed and commented on the petition. thanks for sharing this.Crystal Theresahttp://fragments.louielovescrystal.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-3487816555699229422009-12-13T15:44:52.183+00:002009-12-13T15:44:52.183+00:00Wow, that is just unbelievable. I thought world wi...Wow, that is just unbelievable. I thought world wide that progress was being made, slow perhaps...but in the works -- nurses and doctors being taught about empathy and healthy greiving starting in the hospital. <br /><br />So much work left to do...so much.,Carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08878937591945134056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-36264836628495809122009-12-11T18:17:43.694+00:002009-12-11T18:17:43.694+00:00I am just dumbfounded. I've signed the petiti...I am just dumbfounded. I've signed the petition and will pass on the word. thanks for bringing this to light.Leila's mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13220692586558542268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-79114817688452753272009-12-11T15:56:20.618+00:002009-12-11T15:56:20.618+00:00Thanks for letting us know. I couldn't believe...Thanks for letting us know. I couldn't believe what I read... I will sign it right away. xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-8934765575870117772009-12-10T21:11:41.970+00:002009-12-10T21:11:41.970+00:00Done.
You know, I'm one of the few on here wh...Done.<br /><br />You know, I'm one of the few on here who actually chose to not hold our babies after their birth, although we did ask the nurses to take their photos and footprints and etc. I'm generally okay with that decision, and I would have been upset at the time had they pushed me to do so any harder than they did.<br /><br />But all that aside - I am so, so thankful to even have had the option. We were surrounded by a wonderful, caring staff who made it clear that it was absolutely up to us and, even after we declined to do so, they let us know that the option would remain open for a period of time. To have that freedom and that opportunity to try to process what was so unbelievable was quite a comfort and really validated the whole experience. I can't imagine not having that.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing.Bluebirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05026618678540051581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-48384847951141964072009-12-10T14:49:50.278+00:002009-12-10T14:49:50.278+00:00I actually think the wording on the parent guide i...I actually think the wording on the parent guide is the worst. Have signed.Thaliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12125639207843989848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-14419055755183758422009-12-09T17:15:22.709+00:002009-12-09T17:15:22.709+00:00thank you for posting this, i signed it. i think i...thank you for posting this, i signed it. i think it is so important that women have time with their children. this should be encouraged!Once A Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15974149780531831971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-91749846584235154492009-12-09T14:57:51.470+00:002009-12-09T14:57:51.470+00:00GRRR is right Barb! GRRR!! I signed the petition. ...GRRR is right Barb! GRRR!! I signed the petition. <br />My Aunt had a stillbirth in the early 1970s at 5 months and never held her son. She had very strong opinions about Tim and I and my parents holding Isla, and for a while actually convinced my step-father that we had made the wrong decision. She had him printing ridiculous studies of the internet and everything - not sure what the point was in even discussing such things after we had already held Isla, but anyway, my dad now regrets the things he said and even thought, because he cherishes the memories of seeing Isla. <br />We don't really speak to my Aunt anymore. She's been very angry towards us and has behaved quite childishly and selfishly since Isla's death and birth, and I can't help but wonder how much of her behaviour stems from her own unresolved grief and regret for never seeing her first child.<br /><br />Thanks for posting. xoxoIsla's Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15261312062276052871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-49045522219238653412009-12-09T14:48:36.731+00:002009-12-09T14:48:36.731+00:00Thanks for linking to this - hadn't been aware...Thanks for linking to this - hadn't been aware of it before. Have linked to it and signed too. Find it very hard to believe that the opportunity for that extremely important time with your child may not be given....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-88177142804072148262009-12-09T13:51:32.544+00:002009-12-09T13:51:32.544+00:00I signed, thank you for sharing the link, **HUG**I signed, thank you for sharing the link, **HUG**-clevergirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14931103187860103901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-73929016609133341202009-12-09T11:25:41.896+00:002009-12-09T11:25:41.896+00:00I signed.. we would never have forgive ourselves h...I signed.. we would never have forgive ourselves have we not danced and sang and cuddled our little girl!Kyleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00702236797438599075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-13152877134327132742009-12-09T06:26:56.942+00:002009-12-09T06:26:56.942+00:00What? OMG!What? OMG!..alhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679149270839974470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-25718007421263402512009-12-09T03:51:19.791+00:002009-12-09T03:51:19.791+00:00That's horrible. I can't imagine not bein...That's horrible. I can't imagine not being told I could hold my son after he died. Part of the acceptance of his death came from holding him after he had passed away. These uninformed people have never lost a child, otherwise they wouldn't be advocating something so "wrong". Thanks for posting this Barb.margarethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16494588299838654564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-88851628261924287372009-12-09T02:13:33.663+00:002009-12-09T02:13:33.663+00:00Done, my love. xxxDone, my love. xxxRachaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08573991998853561283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-57127243288168735192009-12-09T02:02:24.834+00:002009-12-09T02:02:24.834+00:00I got the tweet earlier and had to see what this w...I got the tweet earlier and had to see what this was about. I signed the petition as it just seemed that it was some forgotten detail for them to mention in the other guidelines.<br /> In the U.S, at one time it was thought that the mother could 'forget' and go on with their lives having not seen the baby. They found much wrong with this theory and changed the guidelines. Same should be done in that situation. My neighbor had a stillbirth nearly forty years ago and she never saw her child. I do believe it is much worse in the long run for someone who wants to see their baby to be denied...Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02732100851347489982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-34787841769379128722009-12-09T01:09:02.707+00:002009-12-09T01:09:02.707+00:00I signed with this:
I may not be a UK citizen, bu...I signed with this:<br /><br />I may not be a UK citizen, but I am the mother to a son who was stillborn. I was given the chance to hold my son if I wanted to, and that time was so precious to me. It is all I have of him. I would hate to think someone else might be denied the same sort of memories.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-35255148935198943832009-12-09T00:24:45.010+00:002009-12-09T00:24:45.010+00:00Outrageous indeed. Been and done. You should get t...Outrageous indeed. Been and done. You should get this posted on LFCA.<br />xoHope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-39263625474814513572009-12-09T00:20:22.966+00:002009-12-09T00:20:22.966+00:00Just did. Outrageous. Thanks for posting this, B...Just did. Outrageous. Thanks for posting this, Barb. xoPaigehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06345329799912987528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-92014992311750334892009-12-08T23:58:19.399+00:002009-12-08T23:58:19.399+00:00Heading there now- my single biggest regret is tha...Heading there now- my single biggest regret is that I never held Kai or got to say goodbye face to face. I don't know what the hell these people are thinking.Dani819https://www.blogger.com/profile/00620957484893505246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-59624762034727355822009-12-08T23:53:51.619+00:002009-12-08T23:53:51.619+00:00done! i wonder what the officially policy/wording ...done! i wonder what the officially policy/wording here in the US is... sometimes i feel like i got "lucky" at my hospital. <br /><br />here is what i wrote: As the mother of a stillborn baby girl, having the choice to see, hold and say goodbye to my baby was tremendously helpful psychologically. It is imperative that this option be available to all parents. To deny them information and choices about their own child's body is highly reprehensible. If the child died of SIDS at home, of course they would want to hold and love their child in death. Cases of stillbirth are absolutely no different. Please do not hide this fundamental right from parents.<br /><br />xoJennihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17682133967979817385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-38458990732680884972009-12-08T23:37:38.521+00:002009-12-08T23:37:38.521+00:00Going there now. That is HORRIBLE!!!Going there now. That is HORRIBLE!!!Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.com