tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post3212437043469302471..comments2023-09-28T13:56:17.927+01:00Comments on burble: ConversationsBarbarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01484695553612265127noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-44045542212515221652009-10-14T16:00:19.368+01:002009-10-14T16:00:19.368+01:00You are so right Barb.
I hate those words..... Ma...You are so right Barb.<br /><br />I hate those words..... Maybe its for the best. They have come from my own mothers mouth a few times over the past few years and I tell her each time... Its never for the best.<br /><br />Thinking of you Barb... al the time :) xxxxCarly Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14586501928364642712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-55363044398173942462009-10-10T16:45:09.768+01:002009-10-10T16:45:09.768+01:00Good for you, Barb. I always feel I have to defen...Good for you, Barb. I always feel I have to defend my baby's right to her short life. The end of a child's life is NEVER for the best and I applaud you for saying so. xxooKara's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07318794767415969151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-66171917423419591442009-10-10T04:17:18.184+01:002009-10-10T04:17:18.184+01:00You are so brave. A courageous mother of a beautif...You are so brave. A courageous mother of a beautiful boy. Thank you for sharing your strength. <br /><br />"for the best"<br />"everything happens for a reason"<br />Phrases like those turn my stomach!Snarky Bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17893940815826970998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-32110105969353860522009-10-10T02:03:13.392+01:002009-10-10T02:03:13.392+01:00Well done, especially with his day so very soon in...Well done, especially with his day so very soon in this month. I don't know how you held it in that long. She has to know that it hurts people when she says things like that.<br /><br />Thinking of you daily...xoxoCarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08878937591945134056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-38192797459529589402009-10-09T20:02:04.005+01:002009-10-09T20:02:04.005+01:00Well done Barb. It takes gumption to do that. I im...Well done Barb. It takes gumption to do that. I imagine George cheering you on too.Fireflyforeverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15290560217994184778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-58765746082099224712009-10-09T15:51:09.213+01:002009-10-09T15:51:09.213+01:00OG, and I also dream of replying to this kind of c...OG, and I also dream of replying to this kind of comment with a wide-eyed, innocent, "Why's that?"<br /><br />As in, "It is probably for the best, dearie."<br /><br />"Oh? Why's that?" <br /><br />Are they really going to say, because your daughter would have been retarted, or have health problems, etc? Which, makes me wonder how they know these things, since my baby was perfectly healthy before she *accidentally* died in my womb.<br /><br />Like, is it 'for the best; if a baby falls down the stairs and dies? OR is a terrible accident and tragedy? I think we know the answer to that one.<br /><br />ok, sorry, ranting taking over!!!Ya Chunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816837461370619194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-32769949418745597082009-10-09T15:48:05.675+01:002009-10-09T15:48:05.675+01:00well maybe next time she has to write a 'note&...well maybe next time she has to write a 'note' she won't be such a moron.Ya Chunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816837461370619194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-81755992522452515532009-10-09T15:41:24.058+01:002009-10-09T15:41:24.058+01:00Ditto. You really did the right thing by just bei...Ditto. You really did the right thing by just being straight-up honest. I hope I learn a lesson from this post, because I'm horrible at confrontation or even being forthcoming with things like that. I always think of the best things to say later on.Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03081973190512198022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-163443607923811322009-10-09T09:32:27.504+01:002009-10-09T09:32:27.504+01:00I agree with the poster who said that you gave thi...I agree with the poster who said that you gave this woman a gift. She needs to know that saying stuff like "it's for the best" is not just hurtful but wrong. No matter how unhealthy the baby is, I seriously doubt that a grieving parent would agree "it's for the best". Thank you, on behalf of all the parents who endure that comment.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-73384735769890002152009-10-09T08:53:39.915+01:002009-10-09T08:53:39.915+01:00Well done Barb, George would be so proud of you - ...Well done Barb, George would be so proud of you - we all are.<br /><br />xxxRachaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08573991998853561283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-63751509967342138092009-10-09T04:52:56.420+01:002009-10-09T04:52:56.420+01:00Yay Barbara!!! I am so proud of you. I know you ...Yay Barbara!!! I am so proud of you. I know you said this for George, but I think it speaks for all of us, for all of our babies who left too soon. xxTinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15149337445828424583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-60523507693546408252009-10-09T02:48:22.618+01:002009-10-09T02:48:22.618+01:00Well done Barb. For empowering yourself and for t...Well done Barb. For empowering yourself and for telling her how it actually is. Never for the best. For the best of who??! People are just amazing how they use these little 'sayings' without actually thinking about what it might mean!<br /><br />xxxbirhttp://allthelittleponies.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-45127926357259326582009-10-09T02:42:01.963+01:002009-10-09T02:42:01.963+01:00Good for you Barb! It's sad that we have to d...Good for you Barb! It's sad that we have to dignify our children's lives to others. I remember my (then) husband telling one of his friends that 'actually , it would've been better if it hadn't happened at all' after his 'it's for the best' comment. Levi died 21 years ago. It saddens me that as a society, we haven't become more compassionate in 20 years...miahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17148960726499386909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-79197604077530699422009-10-09T02:25:42.118+01:002009-10-09T02:25:42.118+01:00Barbara,
I think that what you had to say is suc...Barbara,<br /> I think that what you had to say is such an honour to who George is and was - a beautiful, whole baby. May others understand it more and more. <br />RuthRuthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17768136041024396256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-63077157846951912592009-10-09T01:18:53.761+01:002009-10-09T01:18:53.761+01:00I am so, *so* proud of you. I'm not sure that...I am so, *so* proud of you. I'm not sure that I've ever been presented with such a blatant statement like that. I'd like to think that, if so, I'd have the courage to reply the way you did. Of course I don't know. . .<br /><br />What you said took courage and strength, and I just hope that she realized that. And, with your words, your validated your sweet boy's life. <br /><br />Nothing. None of this. No way you can twist the facts. Was for the best. He was beautiful and perfect, and I wish he were here.Bluebirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05026618678540051581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-89712069444102808832009-10-08T23:50:29.891+01:002009-10-08T23:50:29.891+01:00Barb, you should be proud of yourself for standing...Barb, you should be proud of yourself for standing up for all victims of this woman's insane opinions of what is best in the world. Let's just hope it sunk in and no one else has to be told what deaths are acceptable to her and which are not. It just sucks that she put you in a position to feel in defense of your beautiful George. With love.still life angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15150141781089602529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-24389661422764710972009-10-08T23:23:37.209+01:002009-10-08T23:23:37.209+01:00Good for you, I think putting her in her place was...Good for you, I think putting her in her place was "for the best." Maybe she wont be so quick to dish that line out to the next poor babylost momma who crosses her path.Once A Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15974149780531831971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-9005700511272127562009-10-08T23:07:36.120+01:002009-10-08T23:07:36.120+01:00good for you! you held yourself in much more gran...good for you! you held yourself in much more grandeur than i would've. your son's death was never for the best. i would've smacked her.<br />xxMBMaryBethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10068247604179156536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-84467372063266979972009-10-08T22:29:34.929+01:002009-10-08T22:29:34.929+01:00My instincts say she will not avoid you. Perhaps ...My instincts say she will not avoid you. Perhaps she will remember forever that everything that happens in this world is not for the best and that it never helps a grieving parent to be told that his/her child died and that was for the best. I have spent much time educating a few people who are willing to talk to me about my baby, and surprisingly they are still in my life.Akul's mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02731802741502891348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-76817832670722742282009-10-08T22:05:30.116+01:002009-10-08T22:05:30.116+01:00Good on you, Barb. George dying will never be for ...Good on you, Barb. George dying will never be for the best. Never ever.<br />Stupid woman.Hope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-15475270210960132862009-10-08T21:55:37.824+01:002009-10-08T21:55:37.824+01:00I'm so glad you "educated" her and s...I'm so glad you "educated" her and set her straight. I hope she heard you and now knows never to say such stupid things.<br /><br />And regarding the notelet-reminds me of a card I got from a good friend with a photo of a smiling ape on it, because "I'm sure you're sick of condolence cards." Um, no, I'm not actually, because my son died and a condolence card is the proper thing to send. Sheesh, some people...<br /><br />Sending you love and remembering George always. xoPaigehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06345329799912987528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-7264895267261087892009-10-08T21:28:18.593+01:002009-10-08T21:28:18.593+01:00You gave her a gift, that was a compassionate, kin...You gave her a gift, that was a compassionate, kind act that you shared your pain and heartache, your love of your beautiful son. <br />For the Best, Eff Off is what I'd like to say!<br />Oh, Barbara, I am so proud of you, and so sad that Morons abound. ((Hugs))Martha@A Sense of Humor is Essentialhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07129428477996644401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-3140999399158616692009-10-08T21:00:34.526+01:002009-10-08T21:00:34.526+01:00Bravo! People really have no idea, no clue whatsoe...Bravo! People really have no idea, no clue whatsoever, that their words actually hurt instead of making us feel better. I long to take some of your courage and shove it up my own grandmother's ass the next time she asks me "Aren't you over that yet?" , instead of hanging up the phone and crying over her insensitivity. Best thing I've heard all day Barb....Hugging youmargarethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16494588299838654564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7456461102167226695.post-83659010647728760402009-10-08T20:52:56.653+01:002009-10-08T20:52:56.653+01:00Good for you. I'm glad that you set this lady ...Good for you. I'm glad that you set this lady straight. <br /><br />Next time someone tells me that 'it was all for the best' I am going to try and emulate you and tell them that actually no it most definitely was not. Such a stupid thing to say really. xoCatherine Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618295389400457254noreply@blogger.com